What do you spend most of your time thinking about? Are you self-absorbed or do you have time for others?

Recently I discovered that it is very easy to be self-absorbed and not even notice it. In discussions with friends we realised that so often we focus solely on what is going on in and around us and how it affects us. We focus on protecting what is ours and fortifying our position such that we will never lose control. We focus on meeting our needs and protecting our territory. We focus on what we want and how we want it and go after it regardless of the situation.

So I asked the question, when is this focus too much. One of my friends said that it is when everything around you is all about you. Did you know that is a human behaviour to be self-absorbed? Think about your friendships and other relationships. Are these relationships equally committed on both ends or are they one-sided? Do you pay as much attention to others as they pay to you? Do you care for others with unconditional love and understanding? Or is everything you do focused on your personal needs? Do you keep telling people you miss them yet never make an attempt to find them even if they have been out of sight for a while?

Before you say no, stop and really think about the following questions. Have you barricaded your heart behind a wall to protect it from hurt? Do you hold people at arm’s length and keep them away? Are you too scared to share your true feelings and be honest with people? I realised that it is so easy to build a protective wall around our hearts and this will hinder our ability to have meaningful relationships.

The only person I know who is others absorbed is Jesus. His focus was on what His Father’s will desired and the needs of the people he was sent to save. He gave up His life despite His fear and desire for it to pass because it was His Father’s divine will for the salvation of human kind. He trusted His Father to protect him no matter what and to ensure that it will be well. He gave everything, seemingly lost everything but gained the whole world.

What do you need to reconnect to that will allow you to establish or re-establish a perspective of others like Christ?



Christ who was God in every aspect rested when he was tired, so why shouldn’t we? I think if we are forever tired we are less effective in everything and we make more mistakes that we need to fix, when we are still tired. – JT

Mmmh…this was said to me when I mentioned to a friend that I was feeling tired but still had quite some work to do. Then I began thinking…am I getting enough rest in my week? Do I sleep long enough and is it good sleep? When is the last time I woke up and felt fresh and ready to go, go, go? So my heart rested because I had been taking it easy and recovering from a particularly gruelling week.

This week was full of lessons and great depth and I found much learning was achieved in it. Yet if I just dash off into the next task I will be doing myself disservice because I will not have had time to savour and entrench the lessons learnt. I will therefore rest, relax and rejuvenate often so that I may always be at the very best I can be and bring honour and glory to Papa.

Take time to reflect on each week and be grateful for all the lessons then move forward with the confidence to apply every lesson.

The Simple Life

Am Desperate

This is the air I breathe, This is the air I breathe
Your holy presence, Living in me

This is my daily bread, This is my daily bread
Your very word, Spoken to me

And I … I’m desperate for you, And I … I’m lost without you


This resonates so clearly in my heart today and I am sure it does too for some others.

Desperate means ‘Having an urgent need, desire, etc.: e.g. desperate for attention,’ or ‘leaving little or no hope; very serious or dangerous.’ I have an urgent need to connect with my Papa and remember all He has continued to be even when I forget who HE is. It is interesting that He never changes and never moves away, but often I do when I am overpowered by the cares of the world and for a while forget who He is and how close He actually is with me.


Nothing will satisfy me unless it is the love and embrace of Jehovah Himself. I have in the past deluded myself that there are other ways to find fulfilment in my life and I have been brought back here again and again. Unless Jehovah reaches down and breathes His life into me I will shrivel up and die…unless I find time to concentrate on Him and listen to him I will shrivel up and die.

I am so desperate for You Papa, I am so desperate for You. I need a touch in places and measures that only You can understand. I’m lost without you…so lost without You. My daily bread needs to be his word in all its forms…spoken, written and Rhema. I can do nothing without Him and I can become nothing without Him.