November 5, 2012
SMALL STRAWS IN A SOFT WIND by MARSHA BURNS:
If you will release others from your own expectations of what they need to be or do, breakthrough will come suddenly and solidly. The places in your life where you have gotten stuck and can’t seem to move forward result from thoughts and desires that are apart from My nature and will. Rise up. Be done with unreasonable expectations and be established in the flow of My Spirit, says the Lord. You will not regret this change in course.
Galatians 5:1 Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage.
RELEASE…that is a word I am thinking about and wondering how to embrace and fully incorporate into my life. It is a big deal for me as I only realised this week that people are so important to me but I have a set of standards that I expect them to live up to. I know that I need to leave people to be who they are but what happens when it makes me hurt and cry when people do not keep in touch and make me feel unwanted. Yet I am commanded to…RELEASE. It is at times as elusive as trying to hold the wind in a jar yet somehow I know that it is not inexplicable or abstract. It is something that I can connect to when I connect to Papa and his plan for me. It frees me to be all I need to be and influence the world one person at a time.
To release is to:
- To set free from confinement, restraint, or bondage: released the prisoners.
- To free from something that binds, fastens, or holds back; let go: released the balloons; released a flood of questions.
- To free (a person, animal, etc.) From captivity or imprisonment
- To free (someone) from obligation or duty
Wow…this was a strong reminder to me. There have been days when I have been so upset because people are not behaving the way I would expect them to behave. One of the things I have been reminded is that I am who I am because of factors of my birth, socialisation, faith and choices. I should therefore not expect people to think, behave or process things the way I do.
I cannot make other understand me fully but I can explain what I need done and work from there. Yes my friends and I get along because we understand each other and the related needs but there will be many I will explain to and they won’t get it. So here I am being rebuked for expecting too much from people yet I have not been clear of what is important to me and interacted with people as is best suited for them.
The answer depends on every one and the matters arising in our individual lives. In my life I have released many people but there are others I hold onto and make things harder for them due to great expectation. In many ways I have moved on and allowed people to be free of my expectations but there are some select few who I expect the world from. This expectation has continued to taint my relationship with them.
The hardest thing for me is the realisation that I am struggling to find balance and a way to connect with people and keep in touch. I so often feel that they have decided that I don’t matter and it is a case of out of sight out of mind. The end result is loneliness and frustration in the space that I have reserved for those relationships. So I wonder if I need to hold onto that place or just remove the barrier that has demarcated their space.
Reason and logic says I need to move on but I don’t know how. When I did not know how to do about the business I enrolled in school. I am not sure how I will get to the end but I know that I am in the place where I can chose the way I live and make my life happier. I cannot live with a sense of despair and loss that I feel in this relationship yet I don’t know how to move from here.
I will however keep walking and working to make sense of my life and the challenges on the walk of life. I choose to release everyone around me to be all they can be and pray that they too will release me to be all I can be. May our love for each other allow us all of use to make the best of our lives and bring great joy to all? It is well and there is great hope every day.
Shalom Papa is in control