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Why again?

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What is so important about a why?

So many things but I will only name a few. It is the fire in your belly. It is like fuel for the flight. It is the rain after a long dry spell. It is the reason you get up at 5am and head to work out. It is the strength to workout after a long day. Bottom line…it is the reason you keep going.

Last week I found it a little challenging to keep going because work was extremely busy and my energy levels weren’t all that yet I found that when I started working out my body would ask for the kind of intensity it is used to. I found that when my mind wanted to give up I would remember that the reason for the journey and was no longer fainthearted.

The funniest was on Sunday when I served my guests chocolate covered doughnuts and posted the picture on my Facebook page. It was tasty and enticing but I only ate half a doughnut and remembered it takes a 6 mile run to burn those calories. One of my young people said that I should be reported to coach. Hahahaaha was all I said was of course I had already told him I’d eaten the doughnut.

Nothing can stand in the way of my why unless I let it

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That is the greater lesson for this season. I learnt that my reason for starting down this path has to be so deeply rooted that I don’t question it or lose heart when the going gets tough. Rather I lean in and press harder and push my body to achieve all that God has set out for me to do. It has become the fire in my belly, the reason I keep going; the strength in my weary hands, tired legs, aching muscles. It can be the same for you.

We all have different why’s and so even if we are walking together to achieve the goals we set, we are on the path for entirely different reasons. I need to lose weight to live in obedience and function at optimum, coach works out regularly to reach a certain strength and lift a certain load as he releases stress and copes with life, Emma wants to lose weight to live longer and raise her children, Joy must lose weight to retain her job…the list is endless.

In the end, the central thing is a strong why!

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So strong and so big that it challenges you all the way. Know that your why will evolve with your process. It will become bigger and stronger as you become bigger and stronger because to remain with a small goal is to remain stuck.

Set a strong why based on a clear word from God and see how He will fuel you.


Starting Strong

Last week I bumped into some friends at a local mall. It was absolutely hilarious. We haven’t seen each other for a few years but he reads this blog faithfully albeit silently. So I am walking from the opticians heading for the supermarket when I see a guy leaning on the wall near the shoe shop look up from his phone, see me, look away, take a second and third look then goes like…


Okay….who is that and then it hits me and I am like is that Sammy?

“Oh my God!!!! Sammy!!! It’s you!!!”

Then begun a one and a half hour conversation about just about anything with him and his wife who joins us later and one other passing friend and the response was the same…shock and surprise at how much weight I have lost. It also brought some things to light because I am not really thinking about how I look.


“You need to document this process for people” he said.

“That is what the blog does right?” I replied

“Maybe give a few more detailed ideas on the process from start to where you are today. It will definitely encourage someone.”

It gets me thinking because I had a similar response and challenge in the very same mall, close to the very same spot with a totally different person just two days before this encounter. What are the odds that people are asking the same questions if the answer isn’t needed?

The next morning, Emma, Sammy’s wife, calls me to help her figure out how to get on the path to weight loss and better health and once again I realize the need. So today we will explore the first element.

Know why you are on this path or want to get on the path.

We have all heard people talk about knowing why when it comes to life change and motivation so I won’t belabour the point but you must have a deep personal reason for starting on the health, fitness and weight loss path.

In my case, the conversation began with God a long time ago about my optimum weight which I exceeded for several years. It would have been easy to say I am not over 100kg and there are people bigger than me but in all honesty I felt like I was 100kg yet I was just at 70kg. I looked like the proverbial African woman with a beautiful shape and nice hips but few noticed me struggle to stand for long, walk for long, keep my energy and focus up. No one saw the struggle within.

Every time I asked God for strength to keep going He gave it to me alongside the reminder that I needed to work towards our optimum…yes I said our optimum. Since He knit me together in my mother’s womb and knew me even before that, He also knew the maximum size I needed to be for optimal function and he held me accountable for it. He made a regular demand for me to go that way and I had the choice to align or walk away.

Yes, I had the choice to align or walk away.


I finally had to make a choice because the fatigue plaguing me was too much and it became the trigger to ask for help one last time clearly intending to do something about it. My why isn’t just about being smaller, it is ‘To become all that God has shown me and operate at optimum.” That may sound amorphous but it is so clear for me because in there is a very clear definition of optimum and targets for weight, fitness and diet…His definition.

I can’t get away from His definition because it has been present for many years and every time I have attained that definition I have actually enjoyed it. I can only determine in my heart to walk the path no matter how challenging it may be. It has allowed me to be driven by a very personal, internal reason that stands the test of dissension or discouragement and gives me the capacity to walk a largely solo path and change that I may encourage others to do the same.

What is your Why? What is your driving reason?

Find it today and you will find the energy and focus to be more than awesome in this day. Let it be grounded on a clear word from God, a promise you can stand on, a calling to fulfil for him, an opportunity to showcase him. Find your WHY in God

Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the LORD that will stand. Prov 19:21 ESV

There are many plans in a man’s heart, Nevertheless the Lord’s counsel—that will stand. Prov 19:21 NKJV

There Aren’t Simple Answers

This morning as I meditated on life it became very clear that we are all here for a finite period and then we ascend to our Father.

As I reflect, God reminded me of a young lady I met over Easter as we ministered in a local girl’s high school. She readily smiled warmly when we walked past each other even though we hadn’t really spoken before that but there was a depth and calmness around her. When the team went on stage it was clear that she loved God and was there to honour Him above all else. Our paths crossed again late May at yet another girl’s high school but this time she was picking up equipment to go and setup elsewhere.

She was calm and warm keenly focused on getting to the next venue to be ready to spend time with others in the presence of God. She was not bothered about the inconvenience it was to come for the equipment, and it could have been viewed as such because it provided a chance to shift something for God.

By all appearances, she was in perfect health and full of energy but less than three weeks later she was resting in her Heavenly Father’s arm. At the onset I was like this is insane! Then God began to open my understanding as people in the team began to share about her. She was a pillar, reliable, accountable, faithful, committed and loved by many. She was in the prime of her life, ready to conquer the world, stepping out boldly into the market but in a blink, she was gone.

Then my Father reminded me that despite all the things those around felt, in His scheme, she had run her race and finished the assignment and we who were still here needed to do the same. It was imperative that I looked at life through His eyes and not through the lens of my understanding. He had taken her when she was young but her purpose was done so in His eyes she was old enough. There was so much more she could have done for Him, yet it was also ok that she now rested with Him.

The biggest one for me was her health and beauty. We talk about looking good, being attractive, eating well but for what reason since our bodies are finite and will definitely end up in the soil and rot. No apologies for being morbid.

So I ask myself, ‘Why the focus on health and fitness?’

What difference does it make if we will all end up in the same place…six feet under? Why bother to try and live well and a bit longer? Why you ask too?

There aren’t simple answers but I will share the ones He has revealed to me as energy to keep going no matter. We are all born of dust and to dust we must return but the biggest reality is that there is a definite path for us to follow and tasks for us to finish to the glory of God the Father.


It’s Stretching

Today I am borrowing a post from Ms. Jane Thuo.


I have never given birth, my knowledge of physical stretch marks is limited. But I know about spiritual stretch marks because I have been stretched proper.

God has stretched me, He continues to stretch me.

It’s baptism by fire. When the fire of God comes into your life it’s painful before it’s pleasant. He comes in and burns up everything in your life that is useless, and what’s worth keeping He sets up on fire for His glory. Yes

He shakes things up until those things that cannot be shaken remain. God works on you until you let go of all the useless things in your life, and you’re hanging on only to the ROCK that cannot be shaken.

So when the father of all lies came whispering in my ear today he had another thing coming, I took out my bazooka like Ryan Phillipe and it was like a shooter episode – total massacre! I think he’s still recovering from a nervous breakdown.

Yes, on Christ the solid rock I stand, all other ground is sinking sand. I will not look to the right or to the left but straight to Him who is my rock, fortress and my salvation. And yes as for me, I will watch expectantly for the LORD; I will wait for the God of my salvation. My God will hear me… God will deliver me from the fiery furnace, BUT even if He does not, I still will not bow down to any other god.

It’s one thing to trust God for something. It’s another thing entirely to trust God through something, or continue to trust God when it looks HOPELESS, and everything around you is shaking, and you don’t understand what’s going on, nor believe it’s fair. It’s difficult when something is stripped off your life that you’re not ready to give up yet.

Trusting God is a decision.

You choose to pray and not worry. You choose to trust His plans and not yours because you don’t know. You trust God with your pain, because it may hurt now but you are birthing something new.

You trust God to build your house, because unless He builds it you labor in vain. Trusting that His plans are to prosper you and not make you fail. Trusting that nothing you are experiencing is a surprise to Him. His ways confound the wise.

Trust, lean on, rely on and be confident in the Lord and do good…sow good seeds. Nothing pisses off the devil more than when he’s throwing his best of jabz at you, and you’re busy smiling and saying ‘I will trust God, do good, and help somebody when I’m at it.

Stop overthinking things, leave it at the cross and enjoy your life. Be satisfied knowing the one who knows, even when you can’t see the big picture now. One day you’ll look back and say, now I get it.

Now I understand why God had to make me go through that.

They Are Watching

I am called to showcase the realities of a consistent life so I must press on and stay the course

Recently I had lunch with friends and as usual I opened the salad page to figure out my meal. It is an restaurant I like so choosing a good meal isn’t too hard. I’m so engrossed in my order that I don’t realise I am being watched. I order a chicken salad with vinegar and olive oil on the side and my friend almost bursts into giggles before she says, ‘I was waiting to see what you would order.’ I laugh because she is one of those who has watched me walk this journey.

As we sat around the table I realised many other things have changed in me. For instance, I no longer have the taste for soda while only 6 months ago I could drink two litres on my own. I no longer tolerate creamy dressings yet I was the main perpetrator of those. I also can’t really tolerate the commercial tomato sauce, ketchup or chilli sauces I prefer chillies cooked down but not the commercially made one.

We are just past the five month mark and my life and body have changed indeed. The thing that got me however is the reality that there are people watching. I have shared goals and progress with everyone who would listen so some people are actively watching what I am doing. I have met others who have noticed a new confidence or change in how I dress, and some are watching closely. But the difference I have noticed is that they aren’t watching to see what will fail but rather to encourage and be encouraged to be consistent.

There is evidence I have changed but I still have some growing to do and I am realising just how dependant I must be on God to live this way for the rest of my days. Coach always says that losing weight isn’t work; the work is maintenance and this week I have realised just how true that is. As I sat having lunch I thought about how easy it is to start something, make progress and then stop when things get hard, but I am called to showcase the realities of a consistent life so I must press on and stay the course.

There is evidence I have changed but I still have some growing to do

That caught me again because my Father in heaven knew that I was the best person for this life and so He gave it to me. He knew that I would build the right support structures and connect to the right people. He knew that I would commit to the process despite the challenges along the way. He knew that I would face every challenge and surmount it all the same every day.

Every good and perfect gift comes from above from the Father of life and the Lord of love…my heavenly Father. Thank you my Father for your faith in me and your strength and love that has come through your children. Thank you that I can count on you every day of my life and I can be sure that I have nothing to lose and everything to gain by walking with you.

I press on toward the mark set out for me and run with perseverance the race marked out for me, walking away from the desires that seek to ensnare me and strengthened by the power and might of God. I will never give up because he loved me enough to lay his life down for me.

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