Monthly Archives: June 2021

Make Time


It took 14 years to agree to where and when we’d sit down together

It took an injury and a slowing down in life to accelerate the urgency to meet

It took too long to just get things in order to meet, have coffee and share a meal without the pressure of time.

YET, it was well worth it and I’d do it again in a heart beat with all MY people.

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A day later I learnt his friend died unexpectedly from a hidden chronic illness.

Two days later we were navigating to console a family member in time.of grief.

That same day, an acquaintance shared about a broken family,

The next day it was all about those who has lost jobs and lost hope.

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Then JOY burst forth for another as they closed on a deal and another on the trip of a lifetime

GRACE showed up for one seeking to mend a relationship and connect deeper

HOPE rose in the heart of a mother as life took root in her womb and remained healthy with every heartbeat and kick.

LOVE showed through in the choice to forgive, the choice to embrace change, the choice to believe

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That is when I REMEMBERED how quickly life changes.

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Let’s BE INTENTIONAL about our relationships

Let’s be DELIBERATE to make time for people

Let’s be prompt to WALK AWAY from situations that destroy our mental health

Let’s RECOGNISE that the only person we can change is us, others must own their lives and processes

Life is smoother when each one takes responsibility for their corner. Colonise your space and let go of anyone toxic or one who refuses to learn from life and change.

CHOOSE YOUR MENTAL HEALTH FIRST…

Plantain and Italian sausage at Ankole Grill Kitisuru

#NOEXCUSES #NoLimitations #AbundantGrace

Restore & Refresh


Nothing beats taking time to meditate, be still and silent.

Nothing refreshes more than time to meditate, be still and silent.

Nothing revives the tired soul than time to meditate, be still and silent.

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I would laugh when people talked about taking time to meditate, be still and silent.

I often scoffed at their need to find solitude to meditate, be still and silent.

I wondered how they could be so diligent to meditate, be still and silent.

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For some the precursor to good sleep was to meditate, be still and silent.

For others the key to great ideas was to meditate, be still and silent.

For others the connection to their calmness was to meditate, be still and silent.

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How hard could it be to meditate, be still and silent?

How much time did one need to meditate, be still and silent?

How did one find the space or place to meditate, be still and silent?

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Surely it is easy to meditate, be still and silent.

Surely my mind is not too distracted to meditate, be still and silent.

Surely it is possible to be undistracted to meditate, be still and silent.

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I need to sit in the corner and meditate, be still and silent.

I sit with my head wrapped in a shawl to meditate, be still and silent.

I must recalibrate daily by making time to meditate, be still and silent.

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I settle my soul against the raging tide as I meditate, am still and silent.

I grow myself in the moments of solitude as I meditate, am still and silent.

I learn discernment in the stillness of life as I meditate, am still and silent.

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So I take time to meditate, be still and silent.

I find strength in moments when I meditate, am still and silent.

I grow when I meditate, am still and silent.

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Life is a Journey


Life is a journey and even when you think the route is clear…something can happen.

I have been part of a production that has taken a lot out me because of all the changes going on. It has been quite a journey to understand the realities of life and to find a pathway that works.

Simple things have changed my perspectives and I will share a few of them here:

There are spaces I need to colonise but in my simple minded state I cannot see the possibilities so I need to find people to walk with me.

There are spaces I already walk in that need more and I know they do but I am tired so I need to find people to challenge me.

There are spaces I stand which drain me of my strength and Joy, I must get out of them, so I need people to challenge me.

There are spaces that are the current challenge needed to grow and expand my view but I would rather walk away so I need people to hold me accountable.

At the end of the day, the thing that matters is the assignment and my alignment to the same.

Recently I was reminded that I am here to accomplish a goal, meet a need and change a life so even as it is important, comfort is not, cannot and will not be the focus of my life. It will take mind shifting but it is in progress.

Do not get me wrong, I sill like the good stuff and I will attain it but it will not be my singular driver anymore. I am determined to accomplish the assignment even without all the bells and whistles.

Something is happening, watch this space, greatness is rising.

Acquainted


Get acquainted with your body

Know what each part looks like

Know how each part feels

Know what the possibilities are

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Are you open to discovery?

Are you daring enough to try it?

Are you willing to go deeper?

Are you willing to understand?

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What holds you back?

What do you feel unable to express?

What scares you to explore?

What makes you hide?

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Is there a light you are hiding?

Is there a covering you need to remove?

Is there an openness you need to find?

Recalibrate Often


What do you do when you realise you should have done something different?

Sometimes, we find ourselves on the receiving end of unexpected circumstances. It could be starting a job and realising that your boss is actually toxic, yet he came across as very likeable. It could be finding out that your partner hid her true colours just to get married to you then unleash levels of madness you never saw coming. It could be waiting for a child for years and losing them just before or during birth. It could be working and expecting a good grade then failing all together.

All these happen daily and are not strange, but they often catch us blind and stand us in places we did not expect. Could it be that we must live expectant of good and be ready to scale the barriers created by life and the lemons thrown our way? Could it be that we are meant to find alternative routes when the road is jammed, and we have a timeline to get to a set location? It could.

None of us are immune.

I was part of a shoot recently and though I knew my content well, I was not ready with my slides and script. I needed help finalising some of my content but there was no time to do that in the midst of our schedule and team activities. I went into a corner to practise and as long as I was looking at the script, I was fine but as soon as I looked at the slides…it all evaporated and did not make sense. How could I make sense of the matter?

I could not wrap my mind around how unprepared I felt yet I had done my best. We kept starting and stopping because things did not sound as good as the director wanted them to and every stop took me further and further off track and I began spiralling down a dark hole. If you have ever been an over achiever or high result person, the inability to do what you know you can do and what everyone expects from you is not only daunting, it is heart-breaking.

It did not help that this shoot on was on the back of a trying week.

The time factor added pressure to my state of mind because evening was fast approaching and others still needed to stand in front of the camera after me. I often do shoots in one take. I usually know my content, speak fluently and smoothly and I am confident. But alas!!! Today is saying something totally different.

Halfway through the shoot, I realised that I should have done many things different but the one I could change immediately was the state of my heart and mind. So, I walked away to have a private meeting with myself and find harmony.

Only I know how to recalibrate myself, same to you.