Monthly Archives: July 2021

Faith is….

Faith is not in nails
The colour
The length
The design
Even as life is complex

Faith is not in clothes
The length
The design
The fit
Even as decency is key

Faith is not in my hair
The style
The length
The colour
Even as its my crowning glory

Faith is not in physique
The muscle tone
The daily workout
The defined shape
Even as health is important

Faith is not in marriage
The youthful onset
The length of time
The appearance of oneness
Even as the union is useful

Faith is not in acquisition
The nice ride
The beautiful home
In the plush neighbourhood

Faith is not in appearance
The perfect colour
The perfect clothes
The perfect partner

Faith is
The substance of things hoped for
The evidence of things not seen
Small like a mustard seed
A mountain mover

Faith is
The road map for life
The antidote to poor sight
Trust in the person of God
Surrender to the ways of God

Faith is
The transformational power of the gospel
The foundation for life
Exceedingly abundantly above all
We could ask, think or imagine

Faith is
Life, power, strength to keep moving
The reason we hold on to life
The root of lasting transformation
The way to renew our minds

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Make the Right Choice.

I listened to them in surprise. So many years later with adult children and grandchildren, you could see they truly loved being together. She served him with delight and teased him endlessly and he sat there watching her with a quiet smile and a cheeky jibe every so often. I can imagine her feisty in her youth, flitting around the room meeting people then coming to stand next to this tall calm gentle soul of a man. They were and still are, people of strong values and their children have connected to and absorbed these values.

I wondered if my generation would have the opportunity to have such strong relationships. It seemed more the exception than the rule to have a fulfilling relationship. What I see is 8 out of 10 people are unhappy or in very challenging relationships. Our children are picking on our inner vibes and acting out in ways we never did or even know were possible.

Additionally, work is increasing daily because of the current situation global pandemic. and just life in general.

In response, we need to adjust as needed. Could it be that we must find ways to deal with the challenges of life? What could we do? Why do we need new ways? We have borrowed a lot from our parents play book and it is not working. It is increasingly difficult for families to live off one income but that is the play many mothers give their daughters. Sons are inadequately prepared to deal with life and empowered women, so they are struggling to keep things afloat mentally, psychologically, socially, etc. They are also unaware of the girls expectations and this causes friction.

The weight of this realisation is not heavy. I have more questions than answers including but not limited to:

  • What is causing all the discontent in our lives?
  • When did things get this hard for so many people?
  • How come we are not willing to deal with matters decisively?
  • Why cant so many just take responsibility for their lives?

I have sat with many young people, who wonder why life is so hard when they grow up. They had assumed that being an adult is living the life without restrictions but alas. One young man asked me why girls seem to do better than them. After a long pause I realised it is because we teach girls many more things about surviving and thriving that we teach the boys. It does not matter that our culture in Afrika is largely patrilineal, no amount of focus on access to education for boys will change the world if they aren’t taught to live with the girls.

How do we build solid relationships?

We must take a leaf from the selflessness of Christ and care for people because they are people created by God. We must understand the space each one occupies and build them to become more and stronger. If we want our relationships (whether in marriage, family, or friends) to thrive and bring us joy, we must learn to be committed to them for the long haul.

No friendship is built without disagreement or sacrifice. No one can say they are close and have never had a difference of opinion. It is also impossible that one person is the cause of the problems all the time so each one must own their part of the drama or smoothness. One common reality I have come across is the refusal to take responsibility for our actions and this makes relationships harder to maintain.

We all need to be accountable.

If I was rude to someone, I should apologise and stop the nonsense of I was provoked. If my child is mistreating someone’s daughter or son, as a mother I must call him or her to account and not defend him or her for my image. If my co worker is taking on too much to help others to the detriment of their work, I must call them out an help them learn harmony. I can choose to leave toxic environments even if others have lived with similar toxicity for decades and generations.

We must refuse to accept lower standards of relationships just because our fore parents remained. We must refuse to propagate stereotypes that our fore parents have propagated and challenge them in public. We must challenge the thought that we know people well and find out how they live, thrive or implode in different situations.

I am not the person you knew six months ago.

If that is true then stop defending your brother, sister, friend, parent, or anyone else based on their behaviour from childhood. Things change and you will not always know the realities of the life the person in their home lives with. It is important to commit to daily growth and to challenge others to change and become the best they can be.

What do you need to challenge within yourself to be more content in life? What leeway do you need to give others to find harmony? Who do you need to see less, walk away from or call out to move on in life? What is your greatest source of relationship stress and how do you let go? Who is your greatest source of relational strength and how do you connect to them more?

Life is not rocket science…it is a series of deliberate choices.

My Lord; My Shepherd

The Lord is my best friend and my shepherd. I always have more than enough.
Oh Lord my heart is full
My mind is clear
My soul is satisfied
In and with You


He offers a resting place for me in his luxurious love.
Oh Lord your love overflows
It fills me with joy
It restores my strength
My life swells


His tracks take me to an oasis of peace,
the quiet brook of bliss.
That’s where he restores and revives my life.
I am ripe and blessed
I am rich and full
I am whole again


He opens before me
Pathways to God’s pleasure 
Leads me along in his footsteps of righteousness
That I can bring honor to his name.


Lord, even when your path takes me through the valley of deepest darkness,
Fear will never conquer me,
For you already have!
You have eon the victory
You have destroyed the enemy
You have overcome by the Blood of Christ


You remain close to me
You lead me through it all the way.
Your authority is my strength and my peace.
Your word stands
Your grace abounds
Your strength is a tower
You never fail


The comfort of your love takes away my fear.
I’ll never be lonely, for you are near.
I belong to you
I find shelter in you
My hope is restored in you
My heart is healed in you


You become my delicious feast even when my enemies dare to fight.
You anoint me with the fragrance of your Holy Spirit;
You give me all I can drink of you until my heart overflows.

So why would I fear the future? For your goodness and love pursue me all the days of my life. Then afterward, when my life is through, I’ll return to your glorious presence to be forever with you!

Psalms 23:1‭-‬6 TPT

An adaptation of Ps 23 inspired by The Passion Translation.

Let’s review

I received an article on social media and though I don’t know the author, it resonates with my current thinking so I’ll share it.



I have heard so many messages preached on the altar about the prodigal son (Luke 5:11-32) but last Sunday’s sermon by a visiting priest in my parish was different.

As I listened to the homily, I learned some things that boosted my curiosity and left me with a serious concern…

My concern is that whenever the story of the prodigal son is narrated, the emphasis and focus is always centered on the prodigal son himself.

According to the Priest, we have spent so much time analyzing the prodigal son’s errors that we have become blinded to the errors of another major character (individual) in the same story…The elder brother to the prodigal son.

If you look at the church today, you will see a lot of Christians who fit into the description of the elder brother of the prodigal son. They appear zealous, holy and committed but when you take a closer look at their lives, you’ll begin to spot similar error.

The Priest had just four (4) questions for the elder brother of the prodigal son. He said any where we see him, please help him ask the “elder brother” these four (4) questions:

  1. Where were you, when your younger brother was making the terrible decision he made?
  2. How come you never made any attempt to go look for your younger brother to know how he was coping after he left the house?
  3. Why were you angry and bitter that he returned and that his return was celebrated?
  4. Why were you giving your father reasons why he shouldn’t have celebrated the return of your brother?

A Christianity where the errors and fall of a fellow comrade becomes an opportunity to rise is evil.

A Christianity where we try to gain favor and prove loyalty before authority by discrediting or running down a fellow brother is satanic.

A Christianity where we neglect and abandon our wounded brothers is demonic.

A Christianity where the strong does not uphold the weak is satanic.

A Christianity where the fall of a fellow brother/sister becomes a topic for gossips and discussions is evil.

A Christianity where we prefer discussing the weakness of a fellow comrade behind him/her to approaching and correcting him/her in love is evil.

A Christianity where we pray for a fellow brother/sister to err or fall so we can occupy his/her position is barbaric.

If you see Generational Impact smoking cigarette on the street after he has preached on facebook, will you reach out to him in love and intercede on his behalf?

If the fall of a fellow comrade does not touch and compel you to intercede on his behalf, then you are still far from God.

Enough of the hate in church.

Enough of plotting against each other.

Enough of analyzing and amplifying each other’s weakness.

We will do greater exploits as a team and as a unified body.

I am not your enemy, the devil is.

My fall should not bring joy to you.

Let us uphold each other and show love to the wounded in our midst.


Let’s have a honest conversation about this. Shalom.

Only YOU.

There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth:

It is YOU

You are the only one who can revolutionize your life.

You are the only one who can influence your happiness, your
realization and your success.

You are the only one who can help yourself.

Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends
change, when your partner changes, when your company changes.

Your life changes

When YOU change,

When you go beyond your limiting beliefs,

When you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life.

“The most important relationship you can have is the one you have with

Devotional by Collins Ambani.

Grow Everyday.

Recently I heard some pastors begging the government to lift the ban on numbers in Sunday service because their congregations don’t have access to reliable internet so they cannot move to online services. This is true for many congregations in the informal settlements and lower income areas. I am a proponent of online services and ministry, but I am also aware that not everyone has the same kind of access.

The pastors plea was so passionate plea I haven’t forgotten it.

The thing that keeps swirling in my mind is that businesses have adapted, individuals have adapted but the faith community are struggling to adapt. Does it mean that faith is so static that it cannot shift or what is it?

My friends in the mainline churches tell me that the elements of communion are holy and must be kept in certain spaces and containers so unless we are in church we cannot take communion. On the other hand, the evangelicals say we can use bread and juice at home and many have continued taking communion without fail.

Can we evolve? Can we shift with the times? I am not saying letting go of our faith, No. I am talking about finding ways to meet the needs of the community in the prevailing circumstances.

Recently I listened to a speaker talking about how they have grown their congregation more that 400% during the pandemic. I heard another story about a church in the village where the pastor focused on building the leaders who went out to help others start weekly home fellowships and the congregation had grown exponentially.

So I asked myself, why can’t we all simplify?

Even though it sounds simplistic these two stories caught my ear because both congregations found a way to grow and thrive despite and because of the circumstances. Several things stand out for me:

  • Get smaller: reduce the size of the contact groups and let people really get to know each other, study the word, pray together and rise.
  • Be consistent: meet often and keep it simple. A prayer meeting, a bible study, a conversation, a time for accountability
  • Teach, teach, teach: Can you imagine when a pastor trains his or her key leaders well, not to speak the doctrine of the church, but to love God and pursue him diligently. You see the thing about personal engagement and pursuit, there is a lower likelihood of confusion and destruction.
  • Model: Paul says, ‘…follow me as I follow Christ.’ This means that when we develop our relationship with the Father, he provides a clear pathway to walk an it becomes possible for us to model it for others in a way that will showcase Him without too many word or works.

I dare say that when we give the people the right direction and help them to know God and understand His word by reading and studying the scripture, prayer, meditation and the teaching of his servants, they will grow.

I believe it is time to move past the usual things we always did and learn to experience God in the very places we are. Too many of us still think we must go to a building to pray, read the word and meditate.What happened to just being with God wherever we are? Why can’t we just sit under a tree listening to the wind, birds etc and just experience his presence? Why cant we just sit together, read the word and share what we are learning? Or just sit quietly and pray together or just meditate and allow God to work in us?

God is always with us and if we all choose to seek Him, we will find Him when we seek Him with ALL our heart. Let’s pray for a hunger and thirst for God like never before. Let’s pointeach other to the cross and presenceof God.

Let us grow in relationship with God.


Strength Is…….

Strength is not the absence of vulnerability

Or the undying ability to keep going

Or the absence of fear

Or the absence of failure


Strength is not the absence of tears

Or the external veneer of control

Or pushing beyond your threshold

Or hiding behind ‘no’ emotions


Strength is not hard words and arrogance

Or the illusion of stability in the storm

Or the absolute control of the narrative

Or the inability to deal with pain


Strength is not hardness of heart

Or the refusal to own your mess

Or hard headedness

Or stubbornness


Strength is not foolishly holding onto things

Or refusing to change because of fear

Or grasping at things that have failed

Or refusing to change because no one else wants to


Strength is choosing the path that matches you

Going the way that is designed for you

Trusting the process laid out for you

Knowing the prize and going for it


Strength is turning away when it is time

Even when others don’t think it is

Finding your voice after years of silence

Speaking your truth as needed


Strength is knowing you don’t have to travel with everyone

And being okay to leave those refusing to change

It is knowing when the time is right

Then taking the leap in that new direction


Strength is knowing your calling and pursuing it

Standing up after a trip and fall

Owing the things you have done daily

Rising every morning to try again


Strength is holding on as instructed

Believing when others doubt

Knowing the word spoken to and over you

Never losing sight of your goal


Strength is being true to yourself no matter what

Choosing your health and growth over others

Knowing your worth no matter what

Walking in your truth all the days of your life


Strength is built over time

Made stronger with every choice

Renewed every morning

Celebrated every night


Be strong and of good courage

Be strong and courageous

Be strong and very courageous

Be strong and of good courage

Be Vigilant About Your Heart

June is a special month for me because four of my people are born in June, so it is celebration all round. These are people I love deeply, they love me back, call me out and have got my back. This June is even more significant because all four have had a life altering experience less than 7 days to their birthdays and I have watched in awe how it has transformed each one.

As my people have celebrated milestones, I’ve fought many battles on my front, won some, lost others but made progress all the same. One week was particularly hard when it started with the cancellation of a meeting I’d prepared hard for, given up my rest day, travelled early and inconvenienced people around me only to have it cancelled twenty minutes past start time by text in response to my prompt as though they’d forgotten.

It has been a while since I’d been so hurt.

My blood was boiling, my heart broken, my head pounding, and my mood went totally off. My tears rose to the surface because I’d bent my life in so many directions to make this work and I wasn’t even attended to. The inflection point for me was that I was watching income fly away. Ah…it hurt. I sat in the restaurant, looking like I was reading but I saw nothing because my mind was racing. Had I done something wrong? Had I allowed my expectations to go ahead? Had I misread the seriousness of the meeting? Was I over expectant? Was I so easily expendable? Did I miss a clue, sign or hint?

My thoughts ran off on their own in many directions…remembering every other time I’d got my hopes up and they’d been dashed. Recalling every disappointment for the last many years. Analysing why someone would stand me up, decline my call, etc. Making assumptions of my level of importance, beating myself for being so hopeful, chastising myself for being eager for that new deal, getting angry with myself for counting my chicks before they hatched. AH!!!! How do you recover from such a let-down?


Did I say that audibly? I called my mind to order as I realised this path wasn’t going anywhere. Take a deep breath I said and calm down girl. Did I do my part? Yes. Was I ready? Yes. Was I available and on time? Yes. Could I have known this would happen? No. Could I change anything on the other person’s schedule? Nope. Is that person taking me for granted? I don’t know.

I can only work with what I know for certain and here is what I know; I was asked for a meeting; I was available but an abrupt change in schedule of my colleague messed it all up. It struck me how often we assign blame to ourselves for things that are outside our league. The only thing I can manage in this space is my emotions.

Why did that cancellation hit so hard?

The cancellation hit because it brought the state of my heart to the fore. It blew the hidden realities of my heart into the limelight for me to see. It clarified the state of my being and showed me my truth. Nothing should have so much power to throw me off track but this one did. I couldn’t deny it but I would not be spending a lot of time there. The reality is I was glad to see where I was and how I felt because it gave me room to deal with me and set the stage for future situations and interactions.

It is important to find our grounding in the knowledge of who we are, what we are called to do, how far we are on the path and the assigned partners. Will we find people who disappoint us? Yes! Will we have difficult days? Yes. It took me few minutes to recalibrate and reconnect to my inner peace and strength but I did. It also taught me to be vigilant about my heart and mind, to guard my emotions, to walk away from negativity and to grow from every experience.